Comments on: The Art of Conversation: Stranger? No danger. http://www.jaymorrissey.com/2008/01/15/the-art-of-conversation-stranger-no-danger/ Practical advice for better living Thu, 04 Dec 2008 03:31:41 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.3.1 By: chango http://www.jaymorrissey.com/2008/01/15/the-art-of-conversation-stranger-no-danger/#comment-1601 chango Tue, 21 Oct 2008 02:11:42 +0000 http://www.jaymorrissey.com/2008/01/15/the-art-of-conversation-stranger-no-danger/#comment-1601 Well written article! I will sometimes find myself in situations where I would like to start a conversation with a stranger, yet i don't because of the fear that they'll find that weird or they'll look at me funny. I wasn't always like this though, just a couple of years ago I could turn the most awkward social situation into a two hour conversation. I guess all this techno-socializing has had some effects on my ability to interact with people face to face! Your article is going to be my stepping stone into becoming the old me again! Well written article! I will sometimes find myself in situations where I would like to start a conversation with a stranger, yet i don’t because of the fear that they’ll find that weird or they’ll look at me funny. I wasn’t always like this though, just a couple of years ago I could turn the most awkward social situation into a two hour conversation. I guess all this techno-socializing has had some effects on my ability to interact with people face to face! Your article is going to be my stepping stone into becoming the old me again!

]]> By: asithi http://www.jaymorrissey.com/2008/01/15/the-art-of-conversation-stranger-no-danger/#comment-1599 asithi Mon, 20 Oct 2008 23:15:19 +0000 http://www.jaymorrissey.com/2008/01/15/the-art-of-conversation-stranger-no-danger/#comment-1599 I have gotten discounts from stores because I chat with the employees while they are ringing up my stuff. Sometimes they will mention that their ad has a coupon for an item I am purchasing and will even look for a copy of the ad for me. I don't do it for the discount. I just like talking to people when I am by myself. I have gotten discounts from stores because I chat with the employees while they are ringing up my stuff. Sometimes they will mention that their ad has a coupon for an item I am purchasing and will even look for a copy of the ad for me. I don’t do it for the discount. I just like talking to people when I am by myself.

]]> By: Fatos http://www.jaymorrissey.com/2008/01/15/the-art-of-conversation-stranger-no-danger/#comment-1306 Fatos Fri, 26 Sep 2008 08:08:03 +0000 http://www.jaymorrissey.com/2008/01/15/the-art-of-conversation-stranger-no-danger/#comment-1306 I really love your post and I am attached to your blog... a new subscriber! ;) Keep up the good post... love them all. I really love your post and I am attached to your blog… a new subscriber! ;)

Keep up the good post… love them all.

]]> By: Danica Rice http://www.jaymorrissey.com/2008/01/15/the-art-of-conversation-stranger-no-danger/#comment-359 Danica Rice Wed, 14 May 2008 17:38:32 +0000 http://www.jaymorrissey.com/2008/01/15/the-art-of-conversation-stranger-no-danger/#comment-359 This is in response to Paul. Honestly, I think that its all a matter of trying and seeing what happens. I mean, if you just are sitting next to someone, saying "What's up?" and they don't respond or look at you weird, then they just aren't in the mood to talk! There's plenty of people who will be happy to chat once you make an initial effort. Oftentimes, the trick is also to read the person well enough. I mean, if a person turns away from you, and is only interested in the window, you might not get very far, however if the person is looking around with a smile on their face, you might have a better chance. I like to call it looking "open".. If you look open enough, maybe someone will approach you, or if you just understand who looks open and who looks "closed" then you'll have a much easier time! Hope that helps!! This is in response to Paul.

Honestly, I think that its all a matter of trying and seeing what happens. I mean, if you just are sitting next to someone, saying “What’s up?” and they don’t respond or look at you weird, then they just aren’t in the mood to talk!

There’s plenty of people who will be happy to chat once you make an initial effort. Oftentimes, the trick is also to read the person well enough. I mean, if a person turns away from you, and is only interested in the window, you might not get very far, however if the person is looking around with a smile on their face, you might have a better chance. I like to call it looking “open”.. If you look open enough, maybe someone will approach you, or if you just understand who looks open and who looks “closed” then you’ll have a much easier time!

Hope that helps!!

]]> By: Paul http://www.jaymorrissey.com/2008/01/15/the-art-of-conversation-stranger-no-danger/#comment-355 Paul Mon, 12 May 2008 23:16:14 +0000 http://www.jaymorrissey.com/2008/01/15/the-art-of-conversation-stranger-no-danger/#comment-355 Great article - I would love to discuss the ability to talk to people though? I would love to be able to talk to random people but if I try i just look weird because I'm rubbish at it. Its like telling someone whos stupid to be clever, some are good at talking to strangers, some are really bad and you can't just say talk to people and voila! :) - c'mon, tips on how not to look like that weird guy on the subway! :D Great article - I would love to discuss the ability to talk to people though? I would love to be able to talk to random people but if I try i just look weird because I’m rubbish at it. Its like telling someone whos stupid to be clever, some are good at talking to strangers, some are really bad and you can’t just say talk to people and voila! :) - c’mon, tips on how not to look like that weird guy on the subway! :D

]]> By: Danica Rice http://www.jaymorrissey.com/2008/01/15/the-art-of-conversation-stranger-no-danger/#comment-343 Danica Rice Wed, 07 May 2008 16:31:08 +0000 http://www.jaymorrissey.com/2008/01/15/the-art-of-conversation-stranger-no-danger/#comment-343 Posted about this on my blog, check it out (see website)... Thanks so much for writing this, it gave me the inspiration I needed. Posted about this on my blog, check it out (see website)… Thanks so much for writing this, it gave me the inspiration I needed.

]]> By: Dima http://www.jaymorrissey.com/2008/01/15/the-art-of-conversation-stranger-no-danger/#comment-153 Dima Mon, 28 Jan 2008 01:39:23 +0000 http://www.jaymorrissey.com/2008/01/15/the-art-of-conversation-stranger-no-danger/#comment-153 Very moving article, "Yet, we are often shy, scared and even lazy when it comes to meeting new people." relates to me exactly. About the old people bit; I think they are more friendly because they didn't have all of our "dehumanizing" technologies we have now for communication, so in turn they had to communicate the old fashion way, talking to people :-O I'll be sure to check out your follow-up articles. Great Read! Keep on changing the world gradually. =) Very moving article, “Yet, we are often shy, scared and even lazy when it comes to meeting new people.” relates to me exactly.

About the old people bit; I think they are more friendly because they didn’t have all of our “dehumanizing” technologies we have now for communication, so in turn they had to communicate the old fashion way, talking to people :-O

I’ll be sure to check out your follow-up articles.
Great Read!
Keep on changing the world gradually. =)

]]> By: leon http://www.jaymorrissey.com/2008/01/15/the-art-of-conversation-stranger-no-danger/#comment-110 leon Fri, 25 Jan 2008 14:07:52 +0000 http://www.jaymorrissey.com/2008/01/15/the-art-of-conversation-stranger-no-danger/#comment-110 real good piece man, due to nature of my culture this stuf comes easy we are very talkative, but in our socioety today its changing, we strive to make ourself s come across as confident, together people, we feel our lives are so complete and "cool" ....its natural.... when we engage with a stranger sum times our preformed perceptions make us feel that we could possibly not contribute anything interesting or funny, if you feel it you should say it, sometimes a figure looks as if it wont reply, go with your feelings and say it, if their on your wave length, happy days, if their not, its no big deal..... real good piece man,
due to nature of my culture this stuf comes easy we are very talkative, but in our socioety today its changing, we strive to make ourself s come across as confident, together people, we feel our lives are so complete and “cool” ….its natural….
when we engage with a stranger sum times our preformed perceptions make us feel that we could possibly not contribute anything interesting or funny,
if you feel it you should say it, sometimes a figure looks as if it wont reply, go with your feelings and say it, if their on your wave length, happy days, if their not, its no big deal…..

]]> By: Peter http://www.jaymorrissey.com/2008/01/15/the-art-of-conversation-stranger-no-danger/#comment-99 Peter Thu, 24 Jan 2008 13:18:57 +0000 http://www.jaymorrissey.com/2008/01/15/the-art-of-conversation-stranger-no-danger/#comment-99 Best atricle I have read so far. I hope for more of this. I was trying to argue against "Your ability to connect with other employees is the single most important factor in maintaining your career" but I could not do so effectivly. Of course, the connection does not always have to be positive (which I believe is what you are advocating). You could set up a sucessful business working off peoples greed and want of money but it would still be a connection with them. My only argument is..... someone with tenure? Best atricle I have read so far. I hope for more of this.
I was trying to argue against “Your ability to connect with other employees is the single most important factor in maintaining your career” but I could not do so effectivly. Of course, the connection does not always have to be positive (which I believe is what you are advocating). You could set up a sucessful business working off peoples greed and want of money but it would still be a connection with them.
My only argument is….. someone with tenure?

]]> By: Byron http://www.jaymorrissey.com/2008/01/15/the-art-of-conversation-stranger-no-danger/#comment-89 Byron Tue, 22 Jan 2008 23:09:42 +0000 http://www.jaymorrissey.com/2008/01/15/the-art-of-conversation-stranger-no-danger/#comment-89 Very Very Informative. Very Very Informative.

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