Comments on: Confidence: An inside out approach http://www.jaymorrissey.com/2008/01/18/confidence-an-inside-out-approach/ Practical advice for better living Thu, 04 Dec 2008 03:59:00 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.3.1 By: Natasha http://www.jaymorrissey.com/2008/01/18/confidence-an-inside-out-approach/#comment-811 Natasha Mon, 01 Sep 2008 05:09:27 +0000 http://www.jaymorrissey.com/2008/01/18/confidence-an-inside-out-approach/#comment-811 Im way TOO confident...people hate it. Im way TOO confident…people hate it.

]]> By: Tom http://www.jaymorrissey.com/2008/01/18/confidence-an-inside-out-approach/#comment-363 Tom Sun, 18 May 2008 14:14:21 +0000 http://www.jaymorrissey.com/2008/01/18/confidence-an-inside-out-approach/#comment-363 G'day I just read your article... and it makes complete sense! I can use it against many examples in my life and yeah every time I have done a great job at a task or talking to people, it is simply because I have no expectations upon the outcome! I have always known this at a deep level... but reading it has brought it to my attention and I thank you whole heartedly :) G’day I just read your article… and it makes complete sense! I can use it against many examples in my life and yeah every time I have done a great job at a task or talking to people, it is simply because I have no expectations upon the outcome! I have always known this at a deep level… but reading it has brought it to my attention and I thank you whole heartedly :)

]]> By: Kelvin http://www.jaymorrissey.com/2008/01/18/confidence-an-inside-out-approach/#comment-284 Kelvin Sat, 01 Mar 2008 03:12:33 +0000 http://www.jaymorrissey.com/2008/01/18/confidence-an-inside-out-approach/#comment-284 I want you to know i read this yesterday and already it has affected me in such a great way. Today was one of the better days I've had in a while and i really want to thank you for that. I want you to know i read this yesterday and already it has affected me in such a great way. Today was one of the better days I’ve had in a while and i really want to thank you for that.

]]> By: Aurooba http://www.jaymorrissey.com/2008/01/18/confidence-an-inside-out-approach/#comment-251 Aurooba Thu, 07 Feb 2008 21:06:05 +0000 http://www.jaymorrissey.com/2008/01/18/confidence-an-inside-out-approach/#comment-251 That struck home, it's true, and I think there's too many people around that don't know the meaning of confidence...the //real// meaning. Amazing article That struck home, it’s true, and I think there’s too many people around that don’t know the meaning of confidence…the //real// meaning. Amazing article

]]> By: tk-link http://www.jaymorrissey.com/2008/01/18/confidence-an-inside-out-approach/#comment-146 tk-link Sun, 27 Jan 2008 23:02:04 +0000 http://www.jaymorrissey.com/2008/01/18/confidence-an-inside-out-approach/#comment-146 I just read your article and I think there's a lot of truth in your words. The one thing which actually annoyes me is the stress and hectic in world which goes along with people carrying a whole rock of things to achieve and things to be done on their back. This one thing can really suck the life off you. And your great chosen words are able to bust the rock into really small pieces, so that you can see the sun again and enjoy your life (even on rainy days). Thank you for sharing your thoughts. I just read your article and I think there’s a lot of truth in your words.
The one thing which actually annoyes me is the stress and hectic in world which goes along with people carrying a whole rock of things to achieve and things to be done on their back. This one thing can really suck the life off you.
And your great chosen words are able to bust the rock into really small pieces, so that you can see the sun again and enjoy your life (even on rainy days).
Thank you for sharing your thoughts.

]]> By: Angela http://www.jaymorrissey.com/2008/01/18/confidence-an-inside-out-approach/#comment-136 Angela Sun, 27 Jan 2008 20:34:13 +0000 http://www.jaymorrissey.com/2008/01/18/confidence-an-inside-out-approach/#comment-136 You have said in one short page what I try to pass on to my young friends using too many words and too many personal examples. I think they finally just tune me out! I will pass your article on and, with your permission, re-structure my confidence life lessons along your lines. I am also subscribing. Thanks. You have said in one short page what I try to pass on to my young friends
using too many words and too many personal examples. I think they finally
just tune me out! I will pass your article on and, with your permission, re-structure my confidence life lessons along your lines. I am also subscribing.
Thanks.

]]> By: Sarah http://www.jaymorrissey.com/2008/01/18/confidence-an-inside-out-approach/#comment-120 Sarah Sun, 27 Jan 2008 17:07:34 +0000 http://www.jaymorrissey.com/2008/01/18/confidence-an-inside-out-approach/#comment-120 As a hardcore overachieving perfectionist...I really needed to hear what you've had to say this week. I just found you via lifehacker (and promptly subscribed), and several of your posts are going up in my cubicle tomorrow. Thanks! :-) As a hardcore overachieving perfectionist…I really needed to hear what you’ve had to say this week. I just found you via lifehacker (and promptly subscribed), and several of your posts are going up in my cubicle tomorrow. Thanks! :-)

]]> By: robert http://www.jaymorrissey.com/2008/01/18/confidence-an-inside-out-approach/#comment-116 robert Sun, 27 Jan 2008 01:02:12 +0000 http://www.jaymorrissey.com/2008/01/18/confidence-an-inside-out-approach/#comment-116 peter.. Your logic sucks. And that was a good read, put me in a good mood. peter.. Your logic sucks. And that was a good read, put me in a good mood.

]]> By: Peter http://www.jaymorrissey.com/2008/01/18/confidence-an-inside-out-approach/#comment-101 Peter Thu, 24 Jan 2008 14:25:02 +0000 http://www.jaymorrissey.com/2008/01/18/confidence-an-inside-out-approach/#comment-101 Who cares if you don’t have a six pack? You personal trainer? Or if you are a personal trainer, your trainee? Or if you are a physiotherapist, and you are telling some guy how important it is to be in good shape, and he looks at your beer belly..... Hard to take advice from a hypocrite. Who cares if you stutter in your presentation to the boss? Your boss? Confidence is an attractive quality, after all. Who cares if you ate a chocolate bar while dieting? Your dietitian, or your doctor? Who cares if you aren’t as charming as Hugh Grant? Nobody. "Confidence is simply the failure to live up to an unreal expectation, an expectation that is held by you alone." You can become unconfident when not living up to someone elses expectations. For instance I think my college training is going well, and I know a good amount for my level. But my teacher (also my examiner) doesnt think my level is sufficent. I need to pass my exams to have my chosen career, and I can lose confidence if because of the teachers expectations of me. But I have to agree with the article. The example above happens to my class mates but not to me. I have learned the lesson of being happy with what you have and who you are. What comes comes. (I think this is also a product of me being fantasticalt lazy, and not wanting to put the effort into worrying. I actually have my confidence from following this principle. The only place I dont have confidence is with the opposite sex. Its my final hurdle (I hope) The only thing I have a real issue is with equality. For things to be equal the must have value. You must out a value on each human life. And if all the values are the same, value itself becomes meaningless. Thus equality is meaninless. We are not equal. We are not inequal. We simply are. P.S. Very well written as usual. I enjoyed it very much. Who cares if you don’t have a six pack?
You personal trainer? Or if you are a personal trainer, your trainee? Or if you are a physiotherapist, and you are telling some guy how important it is to be in good shape, and he looks at your beer belly….. Hard to take advice from a hypocrite.
Who cares if you stutter in your presentation to the boss?
Your boss? Confidence is an attractive quality, after all.
Who cares if you ate a chocolate bar while dieting?
Your dietitian, or your doctor?
Who cares if you aren’t as charming as Hugh Grant?
Nobody.

“Confidence is simply the failure to live up to an unreal expectation, an expectation that is held by you alone.”

You can become unconfident when not living up to someone elses expectations.
For instance I think my college training is going well, and I know a good amount for my level. But my teacher (also my examiner) doesnt think my level is sufficent. I need to pass my exams to have my chosen career, and I can lose confidence if because of the teachers expectations of me.

But I have to agree with the article. The example above happens to my class mates but not to me. I have learned the lesson of being happy with what you have and who you are. What comes comes. (I think this is also a product of me being fantasticalt lazy, and not wanting to put the effort into worrying.
I actually have my confidence from following this principle.
The only place I dont have confidence is with the opposite sex.
Its my final hurdle (I hope)

The only thing I have a real issue is with equality. For things to be equal the must have value. You must out a value on each human life. And if all the values are the same, value itself becomes meaningless. Thus equality is meaninless.

We are not equal.
We are not inequal.
We simply are.

P.S. Very well written as usual. I enjoyed it very much.

]]> By: kendall http://www.jaymorrissey.com/2008/01/18/confidence-an-inside-out-approach/#comment-92 kendall Thu, 24 Jan 2008 00:41:22 +0000 http://www.jaymorrissey.com/2008/01/18/confidence-an-inside-out-approach/#comment-92 Awsome article Awsome article

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