Comments on: Conflict: How to approach issues with Employers and Managers http://www.jaymorrissey.com/2008/01/20/conflict-how-to-approach-issues-with-employers-and-managers/ Practical advice for better living Thu, 04 Dec 2008 02:44:21 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.3.1 By: Karthick http://www.jaymorrissey.com/2008/01/20/conflict-how-to-approach-issues-with-employers-and-managers/#comment-195 Karthick Tue, 29 Jan 2008 08:56:09 +0000 http://www.jaymorrissey.com/2008/01/20/conflict-how-to-approach-issues-with-employers-and-managers/#comment-195 I don't know how you got the balls to do that lol. You advise others to be "more tact", I burst out laughing reading this. Great post and insight Jay, thanks a lot for sharing such tips with us. I don’t know how you got the balls to do that lol. You advise others to be “more tact”, I burst out laughing reading this.

Great post and insight Jay, thanks a lot for sharing such tips with us.

]]> By: Peter http://www.jaymorrissey.com/2008/01/20/conflict-how-to-approach-issues-with-employers-and-managers/#comment-144 Peter Sun, 27 Jan 2008 22:45:00 +0000 http://www.jaymorrissey.com/2008/01/20/conflict-how-to-approach-issues-with-employers-and-managers/#comment-144 I am not saying it doesnt or didnt work, but "I would rather speak to you personally than involve senior management, other employees, human resources, or even a lawyer” sounds a lot like a threat. I cant really imagine myself responding well to a comment like that. Also, I cant figure out how you would give the positive feed back after the situation has improved. All I can think of is "Youre doing great! Youre not such an ass anymore!". I dont believe that would be very effective. Ill take the advice to heart. I am not saying it doesnt or didnt work, but “I would rather speak to you personally than involve senior management, other employees, human resources, or even a lawyer” sounds a lot like a threat. I cant really imagine myself responding well to a comment like that.
Also, I cant figure out how you would give the positive feed back after the situation has improved. All I can think of is “Youre doing great! Youre not such an ass anymore!”. I dont believe that would be very effective.

Ill take the advice to heart.

]]> By: rbtechie http://www.jaymorrissey.com/2008/01/20/conflict-how-to-approach-issues-with-employers-and-managers/#comment-109 rbtechie Fri, 25 Jan 2008 09:01:05 +0000 http://www.jaymorrissey.com/2008/01/20/conflict-how-to-approach-issues-with-employers-and-managers/#comment-109 I'm actually glad I woke up in the middle of this night and "stumbled" upon your articles! I can immediately see how they can be of extreme value to my everyday work and relationships. I'm printing all of this and carrying it with me to work every day, as well as putting on my Pocket PC. This valuable info. is every bit as good as the great help you can get from a great PhD psychologist/counselor. You're not only a profoundly observant and common-sense person (very wise), but a compassionate one! Thanks so much for sharing such great and helpful wisdom! I’m actually glad I woke up in the middle of this night and “stumbled” upon your articles! I can immediately see how they can be of extreme value to my everyday work and relationships. I’m printing all of this and carrying it with me to work every day, as well as putting on my Pocket PC. This valuable info. is every bit as good as the great help you can get from a great PhD psychologist/counselor. You’re not only a profoundly observant and common-sense person (very wise), but a compassionate one! Thanks so much for sharing such great and helpful wisdom!

]]> By: Ron@TheWisdomJournal http://www.jaymorrissey.com/2008/01/20/conflict-how-to-approach-issues-with-employers-and-managers/#comment-85 Ron@TheWisdomJournal Mon, 21 Jan 2008 14:56:48 +0000 http://www.jaymorrissey.com/2008/01/20/conflict-how-to-approach-issues-with-employers-and-managers/#comment-85 Wow, what a great story. I've been on both sides of this issue, but I always have tried to at least look up at someone. Sometimes people are so pressured and busy that they forget to acknowledge their team member's contributions to their own success. There's no excuse, however, for being as unresponsive as this fellow. I had a boss that would NOT look at you if he was on the phone. If the building was on fire behind you, he wouldn't look. That used to drive me crazy. I just adapted and made it a habit to let whatever was going on wait until he was off the phone. The particularly irritating part was that if I was on the phone, he felt perfectly OK with barging in and demanding that I hang up and talk to HIM. I left that job! Wow, what a great story.
I’ve been on both sides of this issue, but I always have tried to at least look up at someone. Sometimes people are so pressured and busy that they forget to acknowledge their team member’s contributions to their own success. There’s no excuse, however, for being as unresponsive as this fellow.

I had a boss that would NOT look at you if he was on the phone. If the building was on fire behind you, he wouldn’t look. That used to drive me crazy. I just adapted and made it a habit to let whatever was going on wait until he was off the phone. The particularly irritating part was that if I was on the phone, he felt perfectly OK with barging in and demanding that I hang up and talk to HIM.

I left that job!

]]> By: Mikael http://www.jaymorrissey.com/2008/01/20/conflict-how-to-approach-issues-with-employers-and-managers/#comment-78 Mikael Sun, 20 Jan 2008 16:03:50 +0000 http://www.jaymorrissey.com/2008/01/20/conflict-how-to-approach-issues-with-employers-and-managers/#comment-78 Hey, thanks for inspiration and tips. Your articles are great! Now I just need to learn how to be street smart and how to remember when to say the right stuff at the right time! Hey, thanks for inspiration and tips. Your articles are great! Now I just need to learn how to be street smart and how to remember when to say the right stuff at the right time!

]]> By: Kira http://www.jaymorrissey.com/2008/01/20/conflict-how-to-approach-issues-with-employers-and-managers/#comment-75 Kira Sat, 19 Jan 2008 13:23:40 +0000 http://www.jaymorrissey.com/2008/01/20/conflict-how-to-approach-issues-with-employers-and-managers/#comment-75 <blockquote> We often deal with “difficult” people in our lives. Though it is easy to forget that a “difficult person” rarely manifests without difficulty in their own lives. </blockquote> You're absolutely right. I have had real bad days at work, and have caused other people grief for no reason. Its good to be understanding of what someone is going through.

We often deal with “difficult” people in our lives. Though it is easy to forget that a “difficult person” rarely manifests without difficulty in their own lives.

You’re absolutely right. I have had real bad days at work, and have caused other people grief for no reason. Its good to be understanding of what someone is going through.

]]> By: Jules http://www.jaymorrissey.com/2008/01/20/conflict-how-to-approach-issues-with-employers-and-managers/#comment-74 Jules Sat, 19 Jan 2008 13:18:23 +0000 http://www.jaymorrissey.com/2008/01/20/conflict-how-to-approach-issues-with-employers-and-managers/#comment-74 Thank you for another wonderful article too! :) Please keep them coming, its starting to become a regular enjoyable part of my day. Thank you for another wonderful article too! :) Please keep them coming, its starting to become a regular enjoyable part of my day.

]]> By: Jules http://www.jaymorrissey.com/2008/01/20/conflict-how-to-approach-issues-with-employers-and-managers/#comment-73 Jules Sat, 19 Jan 2008 13:16:33 +0000 http://www.jaymorrissey.com/2008/01/20/conflict-how-to-approach-issues-with-employers-and-managers/#comment-73 Ah... the old post-it note on the forehead trick! I'm going to have to remember that one :) Ah… the old post-it note on the forehead trick! I’m going to have to remember that one :)

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