Comments on: Respect: Is Kindness Your Weakness?

By: David

David — Mon, 03 Nov 2008 20:26:32 +0000

I usually don’t comment on blogs, but this is such a great post. The car analogy really put things into perspective for me. I noticed that I quite frequently try to make myself too available for others and in turn people don’t really seem value my time. They seem to think I have all the time in the world, since I am not tied to a strict schedule and I usually don’t say “no”, because I would feel slightly guilty if I did due to that. This is something I will need to work on from now on for sure. Thank you for the great information!

By: Авиалегкобыстрый автомобиль

Авиалегкобыстрый автомобиль — Thu, 25 Sep 2008 06:48:30 +0000

Автор молодец! Тема почти раскрыта. Приглашаю почитать мою статью о авиалегкобыстром автомобиле будущего

By: girish shah

girish shah — Wed, 16 Jul 2008 04:12:42 +0000

THANK YOU FOR THE EXCELLENT OBSEVATION YOU HAVE MADE AND WERE KIND ENOUGH TO SHARE IT FREELY WITH US . IT CLEARED MY MIND AND LIGHTENED MY SOUL . THIS WAS THE ONE KEY CONFUSION AND QUERRY IN MY LIFE . JUST A WEEK BACK I HAVE DELETED 95% OF THE EMAIL ADDRESSES OF THE PEOPLE WHO DO NOT BOTHER YOU EVER REPLY /WRITE / THANK TO MY EMAILS AND WONDERING WHETHER I HAD DONE THE RIGHT THING THANKS FOR BEING MY GUIDE .

By: Jackmo

Jackmo — Tue, 08 Apr 2008 13:50:07 +0000

you magnificent bastard, I salute you.

Long time reader, first time poster.
Great stuff Jay, I really dig it. You have played a big part in motivating me to get off my arse and finally create my own site.

cheers,
Jackmo

p.s. new post please k thx :p

p.p.s do you consider guest posts?

By: nadine

nadine — Sun, 30 Mar 2008 17:01:45 +0000

please post some more. your insights are MUCH appreciated.

By: Peter

Peter — Mon, 10 Mar 2008 17:00:38 +0000

No! Nonononono.
I looked at the title of the article and I lit up. I was thinking “This might be an explanation for respect”.
It might br good advice, but I dont understand the concept of respect.
Is it fear or admiration? Anxiety? Apprehension? Love?
I might respect subconsiously, but I dont understand it as a concept. (Im sure Im repeating myself here).
Any thoughts on the subject? You talk about it alot in these blogs.

My other thought was that this story needed more stories, like Anthony’s. ‘Twas good, and more of the good stuff; I say.

By: FFB

FFB — Mon, 10 Mar 2008 16:13:33 +0000

Great info, thanks! This is something I’ve been working on recently. I think I want people to approve of me so I’m too kind whereas I should be more honest with myself and say what’s needed. I’ve been discovering the problems with soft no’s. They open you up for continual questioning until your no becomes a yes.

Thanks again!

By: Jorge Diaz Tambley

Jorge Diaz Tambley — Mon, 10 Mar 2008 13:29:29 +0000

Thank you very much, a great article. I’ve seen pretty much of what you talk about in myself and others during the years.

Also thank you for sharing so many good points in one article… please keep them coming

Regards from Santiago, Chile

By: James

James — Sun, 09 Mar 2008 13:13:07 +0000

Yeah, I’ve learned the hard way these important lessons. But you really put it to words. Like in elementary, friends were important to me, so I tried to earn friends by being nice and generous because that’s how my family is: others over self. That’s how it is in my family, give give give and whoever takes is the bastard. I was in for a rude awakening when I meet people that take take take.

People that think this article is harsh or wrong must realize that society sets the bar. If everyone treated each other in a manner that they would likewise want to be treated, we would not have to be so cynical and suspicious.

As my father said, “a true friend would try his best to deliver a request of a friend, but a true friend would never ask for something unless it’s important.”

By: Jared

Jared — Sun, 09 Mar 2008 11:49:40 +0000

thank you A LOT. I’ve been wondering about this for a while